Friday, June 5, 2009

Junkie Arms and School Reunions

So this week, being a rather short week - having Queen's Birthday, a public holiday on Monday (although her REAL birthday is actually in April), time has kind of flown by - my fellow blogger and Twitter using @rustycharm would also agree! :D

Surprisingly despite the 'length' the week has been jammed packed nonetheless, although it was by far the less dramatic and emotionally draining. However - it was blood draining! That is right! I gave blood this week, the needle went in a little lower than it should have, so the blood didn't flow right, but that isn't the part I wanted to mention, the funniest bit WAS... That first, I drank a little tiny shot glass of dessert wine at my sister's birthday dinner - and realised even after eating lots of food, why you shouldn't drink after giving blood. Secondly, I fell asleep that night on my donating arm (I donate with my left arm and sleep on my left side) resulting in an unusually shaped bruise, that formed around the actual needle point where the plaster had been, almost forming circle and than later on spread down and above my elbow joint - basically making me look like a junkie... It quite a site! You can check it out on... my fingers measure out the lighter bruised areas which you can't see...

And yes, it is the first birthday month of the year in my nuclear family (my family is slightly complicated, hence nuclear), with sister no.2 starting the ball rolling for the year, this year we went out to dinner at an amazing Italian restaurant called "O'Sarracino", it was quiet, though it was mid week, but the service was better that way! The waitress was the type you would expect, a very good salesperson, offered suggestions and even managed to convince us on what we should order both in the Antipasto starters and even the wine choice! I was definitely impressed by her services! I hope my dad gave her a tip... She definitely deserved it!

Okay, so back to the second part of my title... School Reunions...

Earlier this week, I was invited to a school reunion barbeque at someone's house - I probably haven't seen most of my school year in over 5 years, so I thought maybe I should attend (I think I definitely am, it is tomorrow)... So after reading the Facebook invite, I did notice it started earlier than the average barbeque and as the blurb stated and I quote:
"We've decided to start it early for all the mothers in the group.. *hehe* (and theres a few of u) so now u have no excuse but to bring the kids along..." That is right, in 5 years, it seems that my school year decided to go on a making spree and have kids left, right and centre - some are even married... I am going to be 22 on Monday and I am thinking "What The...?" Is that just me?? Or was my school year particularly bad and everybody is having babies? I feel so old, yet young at the same time (I can't even picture having kids right now, maybe in 5 years time??) and all these girls from school are having them... Am I missing out on something??

Yeah, so my school was pretty small back when I finished and probably about 60 odd girls in my school year when I left - and less than 20 (max 15 I am sure in the end) ended up at uni... And probably about half of them have babies... Wow, I never thought that would happen... Maybe this would be different if they were all married (heck even that is hard to believe, but alot of these girls are having babies out of wedlock - not to be narrowminded or over traditional, but I do believe in a good upbringing when both parents are present, representing a good relationship) in fact there are even a handful of girls in the year below me who have gotten married too!

Yes, so you can see I have been struggling withe my thoughts this week...

What do you think? Am I trailing behind? Or just going about life the 'right' way? Well what is 'right' nowadays, but you know the general part I am trying to question...

Okay, so as mentioned my birthday is next week... And so are my exams (I've been unfortunate in that birthday is around study break/exam week this time around), I get about a week to study for my first exam... So I will attempt to blog on Sunday night... Hope I have something good to talk about...

I was considering blogging about "Society and Obesity in the 21st Century"

What do you think? Will I get any responses? Who knows, I am going to tweet this, follow me! :D

Friday, May 29, 2009

Contemplating hyprocrisy

After what has been an intense thought filled week - I've decided to vent through a blogpost. Maybe it will be a good way to get my thoughts reorganised, even a good way to get some people sharing their thoughts on the matter.

As the title suggests, I've been thinking alot of hypocrisy... We've all faced it, heck we're probably all guilty of it someway or another. We're all human, we like to think we all do the right thing by ourselves and others - but chances are, if we judge or comment on something we don't like about someone, we're probably just as guilty about doing it ourselves.

Okay - so the student in me wants to start by first defining what "hypocrisy" means, just goes to show that I have spent way too long writing essays and reports, so I hope this post isn't too academic. For all of you who just want to know the exact definition of hyprocrisy it is this:
  • an expression of agreement that is not supported by real conviction
  • insincerity by virtue of pretending to have qualities or beliefs that you do not really have
(Wordnet Princeton, 2009) - look! I even have to reference! :O

So now, we all know what it is all about... And this week I have well faced it on both descriptions. We're all hypocrites in our little ways, and just like lies (hey even then, parents tell their children not to lie and then lie that Santa or The Tooth Fairy is real!) there are the small ones that don't hurt anybody and the really big ones that can really screw things up.

Here is one form that maybe you might be more familiar with: being two-faced. Now, as a female I can definitely agree that on some levels it is engrained in our nature - we like to talk about people to other people and to another set people as well, usually its harmless and on the occasion we get in trouble for it. But here is my issue: when it is no longer 'harmless' and steps into the workplace.

After being told by my superior that they really "appreciated my input" and "valued my work" and tried hard to amp up my ego (which I could see through), I was suddenly placed in a position to implement a plan, where my input was not considered in its creation. Based on my previous experiences, I was quite insulted for the complete disregard of my knowledge - and everyone whom I told couldn't figure out how that worked and thought it was wrong. Now many would say "that's life" and "that's work" and I should probly grit my teeh and bear it - but when I went to them and told them how I felt and that as result of it I was seriously considering resigning, suddenly they turned out and starting to tell me "they were sorry that there was oversight on the issue" and that it wasn't "intentional". Now, sure maybe I should be forgiving and let it go - but given of my original opinions of my superior, that is not the case, I realised deep down that person was literally "two-faced", they would say things they thought should be said, that I should be told just because they were the manager who wanted to maintain morale.

To make matters worse! After following a discussion to address my "issues" the same person than tried to do reverse psychology on me - asking me why I felt this way and what would happen if I was to face it in another job. Going further to say that part of my job was not to take so much work on and everything that came out of their mouth seemed like "sugar-coating" to make themselves feel better, knowing full well that I take my work seriously will try hard and work above expectations... Thinking about it now makes me roll my eyes (which is not a good habit to get into!)

What I can't figure out is what is the point of saying one thing and then doing another? And then trying to apologise for it? Sure, I may be a casual staff member - but if you really don't believe in the work I do, than dont' tell me you do! Seriously, I could waste my time listening to something else or expressing my "thank yous" and be polite to someone who compliments me and actually means it. Why waste my time? I have so little of it already!

On the lighter note, a smaller hyprocrisy and none in offence to parents out there - I love my parents seriously, I just on some levels just don't understand them.

One thing which makes me wonder as I occasionally make serious thoughts about my future, which I hope to include children one day. I think, that I can really learn from my parents shortcomings. Now, as I mentioned before, hypocrisy is everywhere and parents are often sometimes the worse - which is fine when your children are little and they don't understand and you want them to grow up and be well behavcd. But what happens when they grow up, pick up on the fact that you don't indeed stick by what you want them to do - where do you go from there?

Leading by example: I am sure you know what that means, its pretty straightforward. But just in case, its is showing others what you would like them to do because you do it to. Now, I face this alot of home, most of the time I brush it off - accept that is parents for you, you just have to bear it. But given my already hyprotically filled week, it was just one bad part in an even worse week - so I think I should add it to the list. My parents are great for telling me to do things but not doing it themselves, the child in me can see that and mimics what they do - so even though I get told to "clean my room" and "put away my things", I don't, why? Because they don't. The problem here, is I don't want to in 5 or so years, have some children and do the same. Now, if I could tell my parents (without sounding disrespectful or unappreciative) I would say to them - when you are just as perfect as you want me to be, and I am not - you have the right to tell me off. Unfortunately, in many attempts to really do so, I still get told to clean my room even though theirs isn't clean...

Now, that made me feel better - its out in the open! Yay! It made me realise that humans, well, we're pretty messed up sometimes. We're always willing to shovel off the blame to someone else, knowing deep down inside - it is all a lie and we're just as bad.

So here we are, the end of my first official post. Tell me what you think? Too negative? I apologise now - just the result of the week...

But share with me the times you have been faced with hyprocrisy - I like to share these things...

And for now? Well I will focus how I don't want to be a hypocrite and well will at least try to be less of one - because all it really does it create problems...

Till next time...